Saturday, May 12, 2012

#discipline

praise in public - scold in private

This picture has gone viral on facebook (click on pic). A countless number of my fb friends have “shared” this photo and everyone has the same thing to say, “Excellent parenting mom!!” Me personally; I’m on the fence leaning towards the opposite. As a parent, naturally, we all want the best for our children.

On one hand:

This is humiliation. Egg on face for the WORLD to see and she appears to be crying. I firmly believe that you can discipline your child without humiliating them to the public. Albeit, I’m not the strictest parent in the world but geez… I don’t really know the details of the offense, but it could be worse….she could have been DRINKING the liquor in the picture (or smoking a blunt) but obviously she wasn’t. Was she consistently informed by her mother AND father (who have different but equally important roles) about her self-worth and the potential danger of drugs/alcohol in her life? Was this her first offense of “trying to be cool” by posing in a pic beside a “Patron” bottle? How old is she? 15, 16? How are her grades? I personally plan to let my sons have their first drink at 18. If they're old enough to be charged as an adult for a crime and old enough to die for this country in the military……then damn it, they’re old enough to have a drink (preferably in the comfort of their home with the supervision/guidance of their parents).

Considering I work in the technology industry, I understand & appreciate the power of social media. It’s been the catalyst of people being charged with federal crimes and arguably the deciding factor in the election of the President of the US, the most powerful person on the earth. This mother chose to post this humiliating ‘picture/long ass caption’ on Facebook…..which in turn spread like a virus. ANYONE who sees this child (school friends, teachers, parents, ect…), I suspect, their first thought will be this photo. This could potentially damage her in more ways than one and that’s not cool.

On the other hand:

I realize that alcohol can potentially be a SERIOUS problem especially at a young age. As a parent, I understand that you should do everything possible to insure that your children succeed. You don’t want your child posting pics on Instagram one day and next getting a D.U.I. that will follow them until death (or even worse, getting into a car accident because they think being slizzered and driving is cool). Nip that shit in the bud. Maybe you warned your child over and over and did this as a last result to save their life? Maybe not.

You obviously care. The question is…..”Is this best for your child?”

SN: I consider myself a new parent (I have very little experience in parenting), so all this is new to me and I’m still learning and trying to evolve to be the best parent I can be.

Friday, May 11, 2012

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Let Go!

Love this song!  Powerful.  “Tomorrow will be alright……take it slow and ‘let go’.”

¡Weirdos.....ATLiens!

My boys are weirdos and I love it!

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On their wedding night, when they loose their virginity, this is the song they might be playing to their new wives...lol

Great song made by my tattoo artist

Tuki @ City of Ink who has inked the best:

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‘Balance’

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‘Rib’ (aja)

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

#Justice4Trayvon

Now of course I want peace on the streets
But realistically
Painting perfect pictures ain't never work…

The promise of a better tomorrow
ain't never reach me…

Watch my 'lil homies
Lose there childhood to guns
Nobody cries no more
Cause we all die for fun
So why you ask me if I want peace
If you cant grant it
Niggas fighting across the whole planet
So we can never be peace…

Will there ever be peace?
Or all we all just headed for doom,
Still consumed by the beefs,
And I know there never be peace,

The only peace we got
Is the peace in our heart
Or the peace in our mind
Or that damn “piece” that we hold in our waste line

We all goin' need God if we plan to get out of this
Niggas spending too much time hating on each other
Niggas buyin' guns
Load em up
Aim at each other
And the victim is you and me
The secret is true indeed
The good die
Mostly over bullshit
Repeatedly
Deep in me there's a part that wants nothing but love
But the rest of me knows war is what's waiting for us
So I stays ready
Keep my pay heavy and boss up
Stack my funds and my guns
Never rely on luck
Asking God to point out the imposters
Never let no weapon formed against me prosper
Cause they'll never be peace
So don't rely on it
Soldiers die for
And in the ghetto, they trying for it
FUCK PEACE

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Cool Cars I Snapped

Mary Kay upgraded their game from those old pink 4 door cadis to the new SUV. Escalade should be next.

Mary Kay Cadillac SRX Value: Sell a $billion worth of Mary Kay products

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1969 Chevelle SS Value: $65,000

(sn: 1970 Chevelle SS Convert. LS6 is my favorite car of ALL time)

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Porsche 911 Turbo Cabriolet Value: $158,590

(loved the 911 Turbo since I was a kid)

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Lamborghini Gallardo Value: $202,000

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Surprisingly Good

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Kony 2012

Thursday, February 23, 2012

Rest in Peace Whitney Houston

Before Whitney Houston became a worldwide superstar, the Men of the Morehouse Student Government Association recognized just how quickly her star would rise (big ups to my cousin Adam Smith (SGA Pres. to her right)). In the Fall of 1985, the SGA invited this young and rising talent to perform for our 1985 Homecoming R&B Concert.

BEFORE IT ALL….

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Lent

My sister posted this on her Facebook page:

“Wouldn't it be great if we could all participate in Lent by doing this:”

Refocus for Lent,
Give up complaining — focus on gratitude.
Give up harsh judgments — think kind thoughts.
Give up worry — trust God to provide.
Give up discouragement — be full of hope.
Give up bitterness — turn to forgiveness.
Give up... hatred — return good for evil.
Give up anger — be more patient.
Give up pettiness — become mature.
Give up jealousy — pray for trust.
Give up gossiping — control your tongue.
Give up sin — turn to virtue.
Give up giving up — persevere.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Black (American) History Month

Malcolm Little AKA Malcolm X aka El-Hajj Malik El-Shabazz is one of my favorite people in the history of the United States of America and someone I consider a hero.  If you’ve never read “The Autobiography of Malcolm X” by Alex Haley…..READ IT.  It’s required.  What I admire most about him was his intellect and his consistent ability to achieve his life pursuit of changing for the better.  Throughout his life he evolved and his mind was always open to change and a better understanding of “truth.”

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